Sometimes we all get a little too scripted. This happens a lot to actors, especially when we are memorized, off copy, off book, whatever you want to call it. But it happens to regular folks, too.
It’s easy to become scripted. Much easier than being real. When we are real we are afraid people won’t like us. It could be a litany of things we come up with. The committee in our heads is unforgiving and never lets us forget the things we are most vulnerable about. The what ifs take over our mental space and before we even open our mouths to speak, we shut down emotionally.
We show up, become complacent, well rehearsed and act our way through life instead of allowing ourselves to feel. And while we may think we are doing a bang-up job of keeping up the facade, life has a way of waking us up to reality.
When I’m too scripted I don’t get the part. Maybe that should be the gauge for everyone. When you aren’t being authentic and using all that stuff that made you who you are, then you fall short and someone else steps in and takes the lead.
I’m wise enough to know I don’t know it all and also when I am in need of help. So I go searching for it. It came in the form of an acting coach my agent recommended. I spent a small part of the morning with him yesterday and he quickly reiterated that I was in deed, scripted. It’s so ironic because I spend so much of my time being unscripted, even when I could use a little scripting, that you think it would come naturally for me.
But the funny thing is, even before I saw him I felt my monologue was too rehearsed. I felt like I was reading it instead of feeling it. Being a better actor means being more authentic, which means all of those experiences that made me who I am, get a chance to be revealed.
Good, bad, silly, ugly, scary, fearful and sad can all be brought to the surface with the right coaching and the man I worked with managed to bring laughter, sincerity and tears in about 15 minutes.
I don’t know why we hide that stuff. The more we show how authentic we are, the more people should like us. We are essentially more likable because we are more human and therefore more relatable.
Like a good actor who can cast a spell, when he brings a character to life, we should all strive to be that committed in just being our true, unscripted, authentic selves.