Attachment is the condition of being attached to something or someone in particular. If you live your life attaching to certain people, hows and details, then you have probably set yourself up for many disappointments. I’m guilty of it myself.
In our pea brains we think we know the best way to get from A to Z and don’t care what anybody else has to say about it; consequently our ego is in the driver’s seat and when that happens we don’t allow for life’s magic to help us out.
When we become our own GPS we attach too much to who and how. This person will do this for me, I am going to work for that company, he’s the guy for me, she’s the gal for me, I am going to live in that house on that street, I am going to make this amount of money, it can never happen that way because it has to happen this way and that role is the one I am going to play.
If you insist on certain people, how its going to happen and all of the tiny details that you have conjured up in your mind in order for your dream of happiness to come true, then you will be very unhappy when none of these things happen.
What if the way to make your fortune hasn’t even been discovered by you yet, but you are insisting it go a certain way. Maybe you’re a writer, a potter, a wine enthusiast and your means of money is in one of those ways? What if the guy or gal you think is your perfect mate is really awful for you and by holding onto the belief that that person is going to make you happy it is essentially keeping you from meeting a more suited partner?
Chances are, if you have attached to a certain person, place or thing in order to be happy, then you might never be. No one can meet our expectations nor should they be expected to.
When we attach to a particular outcome in order to make ourselves happy and it doesn’t come to fruition, we become depressed. We just don’t get it! We were so certain it was going to work. Maybe even all the sign were there. Maybe you put in all the work. There is no logical reason in your mind why it didn’t happen.
But there is a reason, you just didn’t know about it. You attached to an outcome that required specific people, how it was going to happen and put in way too many details. In short, your happiness relied on others and certain circumstances in order to come true.
As an actor I have attached a lot to outcomes. i used to leave every auditioned attached to the outcome. This was my big break. This job was it. This casting director was it. This role was the one.
Not the case. The jobs I did book seemed to come out of nowhere. Calls here and there, people finding me. Nothing I had attached to was going anywhere, except to a deeper place of depression of feeling not good enough, not worthy, etc. I just didn’t get it.
That’s when I realized I needed to do some more work. I took a course by Mike Dooley who explains this pretty well. So many people talk about the law of attraction but no one gets to the point like he does. It’s all about end results and happiness should be it.
Detaching from the outcome and just doing what makes me happy has been a game changer for me. “If not this something better.” Is my new mantra because I know it’s true.
Two weeks ago I said it would be fun to do voiceover, like a part in a show. I thought it would be cool to be heard, have a recognizable voice. The Universe, God, Spirit, whatever you want to call it heeded the call and I was sent a part for an animated series by my favorite agent, Sandy this morning. Could I have ever imagined reading a part for a woman sergeant on some kid’s show? Hell no! But not being attached to how, who or any details about it certainly worked.
Life is meant to be easy. We make it hard by trying to control the outcome and attaching to people, places and things thinking they are the only way by which our happiness can find it’s way to us.
Think of your end result (Being Happy). Detach from how it will happen, who will be a part of it and any details because they just don’t matter and allow the magic to happen.