exceeding usual limit. extending or lying beyond the limits of ordinary experience. being beyond the limits of all possible experience and knowledge. being beyond comprehension
Is transcendence possible in situations and with people we simply do not understand? That we can’t even relate to?
How do we learn to transcend where we are, even if it’s not where we long to be, and feel good, content and at peace?
If we accept where we are at any given moment and surrender to where we are instead of thinking about somewhere else, we can achieve a real sense of calm. All that matters is what is right in front us, rather than what we want in the future or what we wish we could change from our past.
The what ifs, the whys and the if onlys fall away and we learn to truly live in the moment. If you get to this place than wherever you are at is enough.
We are all enough just as we already are, but sometimes it takes people an entire lifetime to realize this. Don’t wait that long!
If you are in a place of transcendence, then not a whole lot bothers you anymore. No one gets under your skin and you simply allow life to happen instead of trying to control it, meaning you stop trying to control others and let go of expectations.
We cannot make people be where we are, no matter how hard we try to convince them. And who are we to think that where we are is better then where they’re at? Wherever you are at on this journey called life, is where you are meant to be.
Our expectations are what keep us from transcending. When we attach others to our dreams we are bound to be disappointed. No one can make you happy. Only you can. Once you realize this, everything around you gets lighter and easier because you have let go of the crippling belief that others are responsible for your happiness.
Transcendence to me simply means being in the flow. I am not fighting the waves by swimming against them, nor am I sinking to the bottom in total defeat. I am simply allowing myself the gift of being where I am at, because I trust that life will move me onto my next path when I am ready.
This does not mean I don’t have bad days where I get discouraged. I do. But it’s a quicker reset now and I do not allow myself to dwell there. I simply recognize I am attaching to a certain outcome, dwelling too much in the past or worrying too much about the future, instead of allowing the unknown or magic in. I cannot control everything or anyone, nor do I want to.
Part of this journey is to help others who are suffering evolve into a better version of themselves. We do this of course by becoming what we are teaching and hopefully that is love of the self.
In the words of Bill Gates, “As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others.”
Transcend where you are at by simply being in the flow. This is real empowerment and freedom as well.