something that provides amusement.
Yesterday I had loads of it!
I promised myself that I would learn how to cut hair better this year and so in keeping with this goal, I signed up for a four-day class at Tigi in New York City. No one in the class was from New York so I won’t be making any forever friends, but they are nice people to spend a day with.
We started by doing a bob. It’s always been my favorite cut and I have never known how to cut one. Now I do! I’m not saying I’m ready to get behind the chair at John Barrett and charge 200, but I could probably start somewhere off the grid and be fine.
And while this may not sound fun to you, I found it exhilarating to get to play all day, especially with a doll! Now when is the last time I got to do that? I even bought a few brushes to style her hair with (an early birthday present to myself).
I like having fun! I think there are a few parts to the equation to having fun. First it has to be something you want to do or something you have been thinking about learning. If you go into it with no expectations you’ll be fine.
I went in with none. I honestly had no idea what to expect. I assumed the obvious-I would learn something, even if it was to wash a mannequin head with cold water not hot so she wouldn’t tangle in the sink.
But I learned so much more! The technicality of the whole cutting thing has always thrown me and while sometimes our minds can overcomplicate the simplest of things, there really is a method to doing it right.
Somehow I knew this deep inside, which is why I have never cut professionally. I believe that people should get what they came for, especially when paying and I wouldn’t feel good about charging for my non-expertise. But so many of us seem to be fine with it.
People pretend a lot to be something they aren’t. To lie their way through things. Act like they know more than they do. And wear a mask of deceit, every time they go to work. “I’m all that!” Is their game but underneath all of the fluff is probably the most insecure person you have ever met. They usually come across as ultra nice but if you pay attention, there is a quality that lurks right beneath the surface that isn’t so friendly.
Jealousy and envy are two ugly birds and not qualities anyone wants to be known for. Of course they are derived from a deep seeded insecurity, which is why people who have these traits are generally people who rub you the wrong way and probably never have fun cause they are too worried about what others will think of them.
Personally, I like when someone admits they don’t know it all and isn’t afraid to show who they really are. I find it charming. Even if they are boisterous and good crazy, at least they are something and they have owned it!
I never pretend to know it all. Why would I? I clearly don’t. I am a work in progress and always will be. Those who claim to know more than I do probably do. For me it’s not about the knowing anyway. It’s about the feeling. How do I feel when I am doing what I am doing? How do I feel when I am around this person or that one? How do I feel when I take this action or that one?
Am I having fun? There’s the question we should all be asking.
Today I am going to have more fun! I get to do two more haircuts, chat it up with a bunch of artistic people who aren’t afraid to show who they really are, be in Soho and grab a salad from Gourmet Garage. Maybe I’ll even stop in Aveda and say hi to the gang.
Whatever is on your agenda today, make sure to have some fun! And stop worrying so much about what everyone else thinks of you. It only matters what you think of you.