a person who carries a message or is employed to carry messages.
Have you ever met a person that delivers a much needed message to you, without them even knowing it?
Every now and then the powers that be, spirit, God, whatever you want to call her does this and if you are really attuned to it, you listen, because even though you already know on some level what this person said to you, hearing it with such clarity from a total stranger is priceless.
You could be at the grocery store and someone might say something. Out to eat. In a salon where I happened to be, when this lovely gentleman said, “Whatever you do, do it with passion. Listen to your heart.”
I was meeting him to assist him at his salon so that I could return to the hair business after a very long hiatus. I cannot be taking cutting classes without an end result and to me it seemed like the next logical step was to assist someone in order to do hair. But is doing hair what I really want?
As I sat there talking to him, it occurred to me that I had no focus on what I really wanted. Was it being in a salon? Assisting? Cutting hair? Coloring it? Barbering? My thoughts flitted back and forth like a bee to a flower.
“Can you blow dry hair like her?” He asked me. “I could learn.” I said, as I watched her blow out a woman’s long hair and then take the curling iron to it. As I watched her pick up strands of hair and the woman watching her do it in the mirror, I knew it wasn’t fucking that. I hate doing women’s hair! It’s fun on a mannequin head for a short time, but could I see myself doing that for hours on end?
The more we spoke and he shared his life with me, the more I realized he was just reiterating to me what I already knew. As I thought back on the cutting classes I had taken, I realized I had had the most fun the day we did men’s cuts. I had actually come up with this brilliant concept for men as I cut the mannequin head and could hardly wait to implement it.
But as the weeks slipped away from me and life took over, I had forgotten about how passionate I had been. The logical mind took over and decided I should work in a salon to get my confidence back and just do what I once did before.
But the logical mind is not the one that is connected to our hearts and the inner knowing of what we really want.
I already knew this on some level, but hearing it from a complete stranger so freely and without any attachment, allowed me the space and clarity to sit with his words and ask myself, “What do I really want?”
A friend invited me to lunch the net day and she started talking about going into business for herself but couldn’t decide what to do. I thought about my messenger and decided I would be hers. I asked her what she wanted. What she would do for free because that is where your passions lie.
And then finally I remembered the teachings I had studied. Something I had forgotten to ask myself.
“What is your end result?” I asked her. This is something we all forget to do, because if we stayed focused on our end result, we wouldn’t need messengers.
“I don’t know.” She said. “Well if you don’t know your end result, then it is impossible to take any action towards reaching it.” I told her. Often times when we are speaking to someone else, we are really speaking to ourselves. I heard the message loud and clear!
Knowing our end result, no matter how vague to start, is the key to reaching any goal.
What was my end result? I thought about it in a big picture way and knew I wanted to have an awesome salon in a village. East or West, matters not to me. I want it to have a cool vibe to it where people like to hang out there, play darts, pool and have a drink. I work with two people I really like that have different talents than I do. We play great music, laugh a lot and turn out great work. I still do my acting and help dogs in need and when pot becomes legal in New York, people smoke it here. Yeah! It’s that kind of hip place.
And now that I know what my end result is, I can take action to make it happen. I already foster dogs, but continue to do more with various organizations. I have been self taping auditions consistently and Monday and Tuesday I’m back at Tigi taking men’s cutting classes. Wednesday I have an interview with a barber shop. If all goes well I’ll make it into their apprenticeship program and in 12 weeks give or take, I’ll be on my way to my end result.
Now you know why they say, “Don’t shoot the messenger!” Listen very carefully to him/her and then reflect. What is your end result? What do you want? Once you know that, take action and go about getting it.