Can we define love with words or is it merely something we just feel?
Let’s see. I might say I love you, but do I really mean it? Do my actions show it?
For me, love is actions. Words are just words. Sure, they can hurt, they can help heal and they can seemingly lift someone up, but if there are no actions or sincerity behind the words, then they don’t matter.
I recently came up with 78 cards about love, so I put together an extended list of the one word answers I put on them.
Love gives credit where credit is due, it doesn’t take the credit when it had nothing to do with it.
Love honors those in it’s life, it doesn’t dishonor or disparage them.
Love is constant, not ever-changing depending on who is in the room.
Love is a problem solver, not a creator of them.
Love sets about making changes when someone isn’t happy, it doesn’t press the reset button and pretend all is well.
Love is having someone’s back, not stabbing them in it.
Love has its own words, it doesn’t need take anyone else’s.
Love is authentic, it’s not a charlatan.
Love is talking someone up, not talking down to them.
Love is generous, because the opposite is stingy, and love doesn’t know how to do that.
Love is unconditional, not overwrought with them.
Love is constant, not lukewarm, cold or calculating.
Love is too busy guarding those it loves to be guarded.
Love is free, so there is no need to worry that are you ever giving too much of it, unless you are not getting it in return.
Love listens with an attentive ear, it doesn’t pretend it didn’t hear you.
Love protects the people in it’s life, it doesn’t hurt them.
Love treats you with respect because it demands the same for itself.
Love is truthful, not filled with half truths or outright lies.
Love keeps its promises, it doesn’t break them.
Love meets you half way, because there is no other distance.
Love is selfless, not self-serving.
Love is being empathetic, not narcissistic.
Love knows when it is loved because it is a feeling of utter joy, contentment and total acceptance of what it is. Anything that pretends to be otherwise, is control.
Love is the most beautiful emotion in the world. Love does everything for everyone, no matter who they are, what they are, what they do for a living, how much money they make or what they look like.
When you live without love you suffer. For some of us it is not by choice. We may have thought we met someone who loved us, only to realize it was never really love, it was something far more insidious.
We may have been hurt by them so deeply, we don’t know if we will ever recover. We may even blame ourselves for allowing them into our lives. How could we have been so fooled? How could we have been so wrong?
The answer is simple once you figure it out, but it doesn’t come without pain. It’s a horrible and cruel lesson to be sure. But one that is necessary if you want the kind of love I just described.
You have to look within. You have to love yourself so much, that anyone who does not know what love is, goes away. The narcissists of the world will be obliterated from your arena simply because you won’t attract them anymore. into our existence and we clear the path way to our front door for the love that will knock our socks off, because we know that’s all we will accept going forward.
Here’s to Love! May we all experience the fairy tale love that Disney movies are made of. Cause if you’re reading this, you deserve it! Remember, it all starts with you loving you!