the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.
I always liked George Michael! So talented and of course easy on the eyes! I always liked this song, too. I never really listened to the words before but the other day I did and found some of the lines rather profound.
It reminded me of going out back in the day and meeting people who basically told you exactly where they were at emotionally but pursuing them anyway. I never understood why me or my friends did this, I only knew we liked some guy and they didn’t reciprocate the feeling.
But now that I know what I know, I get it.
Some people try very hard to tell you they aren’t in the same place as you, but there is a part of an unhealed or wounded person that feels if they love that person in just the right way, they will come around.
What we fail to realize is that in doing so, we lose ourselves and our self esteem, self worth and become self loathing. The more we give, the less we get and we wind up feeling horrible.
It is only inevitable that events and our response equals the outcome, so if we are looking for a different outcome, then our response has to be different too. Instead of wanting to hear something or reading into it, we need to REALLY listen to what is being said by another in order to avoid a pitfall.
So if you were out and you heard someone say: “All that bullshit conversation
Baby, can’t you read the signs? I won’t bore you with the details, baby
I don’t even wanna waste your time
Let’s just say that maybe
You could help to ease my mind
Baby, I ain’t Mr. Right But if you’re looking for fast love
If that’s love in your eyes, it’s more than enough
Had some bad love
Some fast love, is all that I’ve got on my mind”
you have a choice. Did you hear what they said? Cause they aren’t looking for love! They are looking for an escape!
But what of escapism? Is it something we all do at one point? Or is it something only a few of us do?
Personally, I think escapism is for people who have the luxury to do so. Most of us can’t. We have responsibilities, bills to pay and let’s face it, in order to escape you’ve got to have some money. Not everybody has the means to fly off somewhere, buy copious amounts of liquor for potential pickups or multiple residences to hide away in.
So maybe when it comes down to it, the more you have, the more you can live in denial. Cause in the real world most people don’t have time to escape, let alone for fast love. And if we are being honest, most people don’t want that.
Fast love doesn’t know you. Fast love doesn’t get your back. Fast love doesn’t take care of you when you are sick. Fast love doesn’t respect you. Fast love doesn’t know how you like your coffee and Fast love certainly doesn’t love itself. It’s merely a transaction.
I think it’s good to escape sometimes. We all need to. But watching a movie, going away for a few days and maybe just reading a good book is far healthier for the soul, then bringing someone else into your drama and heartache.
Keep the escapism and fast love coming from George Michael! Do the work! Learn to love yourself and you won’t feel the need to escape, or fast love from anyone ever again. It just won’t satisfy you.