Ever feel like you’re on a merry go round and you can’t get off? Like you see yourself watching from afar. You know you have been here before and you told yourself you were going to do things differently this time, and yet you are paralyzed from doing anything different.
This is called a cycle. We all go through them. It’s not like we want to, especially if they are toxic, don’t serve us or aren’t getting us any further to our dream life. And yet we jump on the merry go round, even though it’s rusty now and a little scary because we have outgrown the ride and the seatbelt doesn’t fit us anymore.
But we still get in. We tell ourselves things will be different this time. And well, they aren’t!
This cycle we keep ourselves in comes from comfort. We know it, we have lived it and therefore, we keep doing it. This happens all the time. People want to leave their job but they don’t. They convince themselves that staying were they are, even though they hate it, serves a purpose. Besides, so many people are out of work, they feel lucky to have a job.
Really? Is it luck or complacency?
What about relationships. We stay in them way beyond the expiration date! Like bad milk in your fridge or a piece of cheese that got lodged behind a shelf and you can’t quite find where it’s coming from. You know you need to get in there and take out the shelves, douse it with some cleaner or at the very least wipe it down, but you learn to live with the smell. After all, it’s not that bad!
But isn’t it?
We convince ourselves of so many ridiculous things, all because of what’s in our heads. You know whose in there? A little committee that is a culmination of a lot of people and a lot of years of conditioning that made you feel like crap about yourself.
So what do we do about it? Well, you can always do nothing, that is a choice. Or, you can start to focus on things that make you happy and empower you. When you start to focus on what you love instead of what you despise, life has a way of sending you more of that and the things that bother you eventually just slip away.
Relationships crumble when people aren’t on the same page. It might take awhile, but if you stay focused on your amazing life instead of your partner’s problems and how you wish they would change, they or you will eventually head off into the sunset and you’ll both be better for it.
The same thing happens at work. When you finally decide that you have had enough of where you’re at, it’s almost as if by magic someone contacts you about a new job or you get an idea for a new venture. You might stay at your old place for awhile while you start your new gig, but how amazing is it to be taking steps towards your happiness this way, instead of accepting less than the happiness you deserve.
So if you don’t like the ride you’re on, start walking towards the exit. And if you can’t get to the exit just yet, at least unbuckle the strap. Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither was your shitty job or shitty relationship. Give yourself a break! But do at least one thing today that will make you feel good about you and reaffirm that you do have choices and that you do deserve to be happy.
Now do that one thing or something like it…again and again until your life is transformed. The next time you get on a Merry Go Round, make sure it’s at a big park and you’re with people you love. Cotton Candy optional.