Call Me By Your Name

I was a bit confused by the name of this song, but with so many biblical references in this video, I found out that it draws on Plato’s symposium; when one person meets with his other half, this is the highest form of love.

I was going to put a warning at the top about this video, but then I thought, what’s the point. While this video may not be for some, I think his vision and artistry and not to mention a pretty freaking great beat, are all winners. I love that he is embracing who he is and the person he wants to be with. Is there anything more sexy than that?

Apparently there is a lot of controversy around Lil Nas X and this video but if you read about him and his choice to do it, you gotta respect him.

What is it like to live a lie? I suppose we all do in some way or another. We might pretend to be happy when we really aren’t, be sad as f%^k and still smile when someone sees us or have anger running through our veins so strongly we can’t even believe no one notices. Regardless, The lies we live have a great impact on our soul.

We learn to lie in our childhood. It is not intentional, it is for survival. It is human nature for a child to want his/her parents approval. Therefore, You may have wanted to be an artist but you were told you would be a doctor instead. You may have loved someone from a different culture or religion than your own and your family quickly put the kabbash on it.

If our only source for advice are people we live with and trust, then it only stands to reason that we will become what they tell us to. And so the battle begins. For the rest of our lives we are caught up in what is expected of us in order to gain approval, rather then doing what makes us happy. In short, we pretend to be something we aren’t.

Why do people care so much about what others think? It’s exhausting! And you know what the funny thing is, most people really don’t give a shit about you, you just think they do. And the torturous part of this is that you are just replaying the childhood program of seeking approval.

This is pretty complex stuff, so let me break it down for you. You had a bad experience when you spoke your truth. Your subconscious has now stored this memory and you may not even be aware of it. Therefore, anything that comes remotely close to that memory of the time you spoke your truth sets off a warning bell and you stop. But it’s just a memory. It’s over. You have the power to stop this.

You do this by Embracing where you are. You are perfectly fine in this now moment. The past is over, the future is not yet here and to think of anything else other than this moment, is only causing you pain. When you get to this place, you see that there is no need for an agenda or to try and convince others of your beliefs.

You not only understand that not everyone is going to accept you, you simply don’t care. If people cannot handle your truth, then they aren’t your people. If someone says they love you , then they should love everything about you, not what you do for them or how that love might look to others. Love does not have conditions. Let me repeat that. Love does not have conditions. Manipulation, control and guilt do.

You are given an opportunity every single day to be a warrior of change; to Stand for what you want and embrace who you love.

Perhaps those of us who are not afraid of judgement or are perceived as too much by others for showing who we truly are; freak flag, stripper pole and all, should come with a warning label.

Hmmm… maybe that will be my next tattoo!

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gretchenlynnallison

I’m a creative. This means I live in my head, my heart and follow inspiration whenever it is gifted to me. I love acting, modeling, writing and coming up with new ideas to help inspire others.

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