When it comes to feelings there is no being right or wrong, there is only what and how you feel. Your perception and another’s can be completely off base and that is when there is a disconnect in communication; a block if you will. You might try to remove this block via talking, but if someone is not hearing you, it’s futile.
Some people need to win at all costs and that cost will always be at your expense. While it is hard to not try and explain your feelings in hopes that they will understand where you are coming from, if you have done this over and over again to the point where your head hurts, then it is best to disengage all together.
This is when you walk away. You take the high road. This is called empowerment. When you realize you cannot communicate with someone who isn’t interested in communicating at all, you love yourself enough to say enough is enough and believe in yourself and your vision of what love really is and you say goodbye.
I have walked away from almost everyone who I once held in my inner circle. It didn’t happen overnight, but one by one I started to see people for who they really are, as opposed to who I thought they were. I heard with fresh ears, saw them with opened eyes and once all of that happens, you can’t undo it. This is when the walking away becomes running and you can’t do it fast enough.
People who gossip, have ill intentions, are pot stirrers or who put others down just for the sake of trying to make themselves feel better are people who don’t love themselves. When you understand this about others, you take nothing personally anymore. You simply let go. You walk away from situations and people who only bring you down, ridicule you for being different and judging you for the choices you make because you understand they are entitled to their opinions, but more importantly, you just don’t care what they think about you.
To walk away is the most effective way to be done with this toxicity. There is no need for explanation, drama or fights. You understand that those behaviors do not come from a loving place, they come from a jaded one. If you stay jaded, then the people who hurt you will always have a power over you. My heart is too pure to ever let that happen and I have boatloads of love to give, but my level of discernment has certainly been raised to a different bar.
Love is everything! It frees us all from any pain we ever had. As a matter of fact I am completely in love as I write this…with myself and I’ve never felt freer.
It’s not hard to walk away from people who are crappy. The hard part is realizing they always were.