Is there really someone out there in this vast world of ours who is “the one” for us? I think we all believe there is, because there are so many ways for us to try and meet them. And while I am sure there are success stories for people who have met on dating sites, they are probably few and far between because I personally don’t think there is enough magic on those.
Magic is what makes this idea of “the one” so alluring. The meeting of them has to be what I would call serendiptous. And I personally think that “the one” is someone who should be your friend first.
There are people who get tired of waiting for “the one”or simply don’t believe in that. This is not to say that they can’t have a very nice and fulfilling relationship with someone who isn’t “the one”, they just focus more on the boxes they tick, rather than the ones they don’t.
I believe that, “the one” should be found within yourself before you even ponder the idea of meeting someone else. If you haven’t worked on your stuff, then you might think you have met “the one” when the relationship is purely sexual.
When the chemistry is off the charts, we tend to assume this is what it feels like when you meet that special person who is your forever person, but…most of us figure out the hard way that sex is just sex and a lasting partnership has to be built on more than that. Chemistry is awesome, but there has to be more.
In fact, if you look up some signs that you have met “the one”, sex isn’t even mentioned. But someone you can trust, may not have everything in common with you but respects your differences, tolerates your flaws, you can drop the perfect act for, work through conflicts with, takes an interest in your life, you feel as though you can lean on them and they will put in the work, are.
“The one” is that person you are always happy to see. You feel giddy when you talk to them and lighter too. They are the one you want to call when you have good news or bad, they are your everything and you are theirs. There is mutual respect and trust and a bond that cannot be broken. You would go to bat for this person no matter what is involved or who is concerned.
It is a tall order for sure, which is why this person, “the one” can take a life time to meet or they could be right under your nose. We often hear stories like this. Why is it we don’t see them when they could be right there? Because we say we want that special someone, but when we are gifted them, we say we aren’t ready. But how could anyone ever be ready for that kind of love? You just gotta jump in!
I personally believe in “the one” but I also believe in free will. There are people who simply will not allow themselves to be loved. We could speculate all day why that is, but at the end of the day it is not our job to convince someone of anything and I guess if truth be told, if you have to try and talk someone into love, they aren’t “the one” for you.
Fear not if you have not met “the one.” You will know when you do. It shouldn’t be work at all and they should know you are their one just as much as you do. There will be no games either because finding “the one” is magic, special and rare and should be treated as such.
Wait for the person who is your best friend, your one love, your soul mate. Wait for the person who gives your life meaning and fills your cup, don’t waste your time on someone who empties it. Wait for the one who opens your heart and fills it with joy and takes away any anger, pain or sorrow.
Giving without receiving is an unbalanced relationship and we are done with that. If someone is throwing you crumbs when you want the whole damn loaf, than they aren’t “the one.”