If you want a yin to your yang, you gotta un-break your own heart first. If you do not, then you will continue to attract people into your life who will break your heart instead of love it.
When you go through a transformation in your life, you want people around you who have maybe had the same experience as you, people who will support you, have your back and just listen as you look for answers to questions that don’t have any.
And while you may be going through your stuff, some people you reach out to via text, phone call, email, pony, whatever that is for you, may not reciprocate in the way you had hoped or wanted. This is a clear indicator that you have unhealed stuff.
And while you may have thought you were done with accepting less than what you deserve, every now and then you need to be reminded of just how little you accepted in the first place, so that you can never do this again. Once you receive this message that is so loud and clear, you will never ever need to repeat this lesson again. It is exceptionally liberating once you see people for who they truly are, and not what you thought they were.
The way we un-break our hearts is by not engaging with people who don’t have a clue how to open theirs. Time and time again we attract these souls who are emotionally unavailable into our lives, until we realize how little we have settled for in relationships and from people in general.
It is astounding how little we are willing to accept from others when we are not healed. I think back on my life and how many times I gave and gave and received nothing but crumbs in return. Not even crumbs! Like a mouse wouldn’t even take what I was offered.
If you want to un-break your heart, look for the red flags that are being waved in your face and do not ignore them. Here are a few:
They don’t reciprocate anything! They take no interest in you at all…Not your life, your career, your dog, your family, etc. They might ask you a question but don’t listen to your answer, they simply keep talking about themselves. They will occasionally reach out just to feed their ego and then you will not see them or hear from them again until they need another fix. They act as though they are the ultimate victim but it is actually you who is being victimized because they have no intention of ever giving you more.
If you know anybody like this, and you keep engaging with them, they are here to teach you the ultimate lesson of self love. How little are you willing to continue to accept their complete and utter disinterest in you? I know that sounds harsh, but they are never going to tell you they aren’t interested. What they will do, is keep you strung along until you do the work on yourself and realize what you thought they had to offer, was no offer at all because they are incapable of doing so.
When you get to this place and that incredible aha moment, you can officially say sayafuckingnara to emotionally unavailable people. You know your worth, what you bring to the table and you will never settle for anything less than a five course meal
The funny things is, the people who treated you this way knew you were worthy of far more, too. You just didn’t.
But now you do!