What is it about this word that is so hard for people to say?
I have said sorry many times. It always comes when I have reflected on my actions. We all react at times during our lives instead of responding, and this is when we will say or do things that might hurt others. Reflection is the key to seeing what we have done and how to mend it. If there is no reflection, there will be no change and of course no, “Sorry” or at least a genuine one.
Some people will say they are sorry and it sounds rather empty. This is because they don’t actually mean it. You cannot be sincere with an apology if you don’t even know why you are saying “sorry” in the first place.
Have you ever gotten a “I’m sorry you feel that way” from someone? This isn’t even a sorry at all. It’s more along the lines of, “The only thing I am sorry about, is this conversation where I am really uncomfortable because you are calling me out on my horrible behavior.”
There’s the sorry you wait for that never comes. Even though the most heinous thing could have been done to you, this person will never say they are sorry, never try and repair the damage they have done or even admit that they did anything at all. They’re called narcissists.
Have you ever had someone say they are sorry so many times that you don’t even hear it anymore? This is because one sorry for hurtful behavior should be enough. If the behavior continues, then the sorry isn’t authentic, it’s just a ploy to keep you in a loop of dysfunction and it’s called manipulation.
People often wonder if it’s too late to say they are sorry. I think that if you are thinking it’s too late, then this is a moment where reflection is really needed. If you ever feel it is too late for anything, than it probably is. The fact that you waited is the real question you should be asking. So you can say your sorry, but your sorry is only for you at this point because the other person stopped waiting for it and you.
There’s the genuine “I’m sorry” when you feel it internally. You know the person actually means it and as they are delivering the sorry to you, you don’t even feel it’s necessary, because you realize how utterly vulnerable they are being when they are saying it.
One little word! And yet so many people are incapable of saying it. Is it an admission of not being perfect? Of admitting they aren’t always right? That they took someone for granted and think horrible of themselves for doing so? That they said something mean in a moment of being human and feel awful for it so they would rather ignore it than say they are sorry?
I don’t know why people don’t say they are sorry. It’s one five letter word but it is capable of mending relationships if done with sincerity and ruining them, if it is not.
So if you’re sorry for something you did or how you acted or even treated someone, then just freaking say you’re sorry. All you have is this now moment. It is better to face a moment of discomfort then a lifetime of regret.