“If someone wants a relationship with you, they better be bringing more to the table than a fork!”
If you find yourself in the mating game, endlessly searching for someone to fill a void in your life, then you are only perpetuating an unhealthy dynamic and being cruel. There are people out there who are looking for a good person and you’re a terd. No one will ever be able to fill a void within you. That is a you problem, not another person’s problem and a big sign that you are in serious need of some work.
You must do the work, the inner work, in order to have healthy relationships. The work is where we go to the darkest parts of ourselves we keep sweeping under the carpet and look at them once and for all. You know how you haven’t done the work? Your life looks the same exact way it did a year ago, or even worse. None of your relationships have evolved and you are probably still playing the victim, like you have no responsibility to how things have played out.
You are essentially on the merry go round of life, attracting the same people, same jobs, same situations, etc. And while you might initially think you are going to be happy or that this new person or this new job, etc are going to be different, eventually you realize it’s the same exact thing you were trying so hard to escape from, just different faces with different addresses.
If you are a giver, you will attract a taker, if you have not healed the part of yourself that seeks validation. This wound of needing approval outside of yourself instead of giving it to yourself will only ever attract people who are co-dependent. So when you have them over for a meal, you are not only doing the shopping, the cooking, the setting the table and serving it, the person you have invited over, is asking you for tupperware to bring the leftovers home.
Here’s a harsh truth: no one is coming to save you, from you! No one! And if they do, they will have an ulterior motive, like a covert narcissist, and the saving will turn into sabotaging, and whatever you thought you needed saving from will pale in comparison to what they will do to you.
If you are a person who wonders why Mr. or Ms. Wonderful hasn’t called you back or swiped on you, then count your blessings. They aren’t ready for what you have to offer and if you can really grasp that, you will never feel rejected again.
You can try and over-complicate why things don’t work with someone, why they don’t call you back, text you back, but the real reason is that they are not a vibrational match for you. You’ll know when you have met someone worthy of a date, when they don’t play games. It will just be seamless, like everything else that is meant for you.
When you know yourself fully and vibe at a pretty high level, there is no need to chase anything. You know if you make an attempt to connect with someone and they do not reciprocate, it is a blessing. The Universe just saved you a giant headache.
When you allow life to take you where it wants to instead of fighting it every step of the way, it’s incredible how easy it becomes. What is meant for you will literally fall in your lap. I literally just sit here and get bookings. It’s not that I am not working for them, I do, but I also don’t fret over any of them. I trust that what is meant for me is mine. It’s as simple as that.
So if you find yourself feeling unhappy, it’s probably because you are trying too hard to control things which only creates blockages. Sit back and take an inventory of your life and ask what is a struggle and what is not. And then ask yourself, “Have I created the struggle because of my need to control or is there really no struggle at all?”
Struggle is an ugly word and a really low vibrational energy. When you get into the receptive mode, you are allowing room for things to flow to you effortlessly. And trust me when I tell you, they will be better than what you have imagined.