With every step you take forward, the further the past slips away, right? Especially if you are trying to escape it. Like a person fleeing the scene of a crime, hoping no one catches them. But are you really letting the past fade or are you only perpetuating it by doing this?
I have always found it interesting when people say everything heals in time, like time has anything at all to do with your healing. If you are one of those people who think that time can heal you, then you probably aren’t healed at all.
You heal you! Time has nothing to do with it. Because if you are a person who had something horrible happen to you and you did nothing with all of that pain, then you are no doubt still holding onto that pain and no amount of time is every going to change that. You have to.
Days can pass, years even, and if you have not done any work on yourself, I bet you can pull up those horrible memories in a millisecond and relive them like they happened to you yesterday. The memories might fade a bit, but you are still attracting situations and people that will trigger this wound. This is a clear indicator that it’s not that enough time hasn’t passed, it’s you passing on doing the work necessary to heal.
We would all like to have bad situations and pain fade away as though nothing ever happened, but if we simply stick our heads in the sand and stuff all that stuff down inside, we will only attract these situations and people again. But far worse.
Healing is not easy. It can often be a struggle or at least feel like one. It can also feel like an injustice has been done on you, especially when you see those who hurt you carry on as though nothing ever happened, or play the victim, which is far worse.
Time is not going to take all of those feelings you have of being betrayed, dishonored and discarded and make it all better for you. You have to allow yourself to feel it all. Feeling is healing. I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true. If you don’t feel what you feel, then how do you know when you don’t feel it anymore?
When you go within and figure out how you attracted certain situations and people in the first place, this is when the healing begins. So you can kid yourself all you want into thinking this time next year will be so much better than it is right now without doing one bit of work on yourself, or you can start each day with a commitment to healing yourself.
People who empower others start by empowering themselves. The only way you can get to this place of empowerment though, is by loving yourself unconditionally. This means you accept every aspect of yourself and become so committed to being authentic, that nothing and no one can bother you. This is true freedom and the most empowering state to be in.
If you are a person who has a story (we all do), then tell it. Don’t let your words of wisdom and encouragement fade into the background, like it never happened. Share your journey with others. Time is not the great healer; humans sharing their love with one another is.