I have always been amazed (in a bad way) how people will expect 100% and give little to nothing in return.
Some people will even test you to see how much you are willing to give, before they even give you a mere smitten of what you have been doling out.
I have talked about givers and takers before. Givers tend to attract takers. The lesson is a tough one, but if you are a giver and have a taker in your life, you need to ask yourself why you keep giving to someone who only takes. And if you are a taker, you need to start giving to this person if you genuinely care about them. If you don’t, then know they will eventually get tired of your lack of respect and move on.
I give a lot of my time and energy to those I care about. I go above and beyond to my children. It’s my job and I take it very seriously. They are owed my giving because I chose to bring them into the world.
As far as anyone else goes, if I give to you and I don’t see a return, then no matter how much I care about you, if I am not seeing any sort of giving in return, I understand that you are not a person willing to put in the effort. I might still touch base with you once in awhile, but you will never understand that depth of my giving because you have cheated yourself out of it by not giving anything in return.
You get to a place where giving 100% to anything that is not giving you a return is illogical and quite frankly, exhausting. I give to my projects to a certain point, but only when, once again, I see a return. Most of my projects do this, which is why I continue to put in effort.
When you sit back and look at your life and the jobs, creative projects and people that surround you, you have a clear understanding of how much you have given and how much you have been blessed to receive. A full life is one where the give and take is equal. A healthy relationship is built on the same principal. Anything else is futile and a complete waste of your energy.
So hopefully you are giving 100% of your energy to everything and everyone you care about. Giving anything less is unacceptable if you really want to live a fulfilling life.