Out of Your League

Out of your league: When someone (or something) is out of the class of people you are expected to date. This includes an individual who is too attractive for you, or a person who is too unattractive for you.

I think it’s funny, well actually kind of sad I guess, that someone would think another person is out of their league. This implies that they think someone is better than them.

But that’s so not true. No one is ever out of anyone’s league. If you can imagine yourself with someone, then you are half way with them. The next step of course is the hardest, because you have to take action towards them.

This is when all of your insecurities arise and the thought that they are out of your league for one reason or another steps in and you do nothing. The fear of rejection can be so crippling that we would rather sit back and keep our fantasy in our head than doing something about it.

Meanwhile, the person you want doesn’t know this, so they meet other people. Maybe they even wind up with someone you know and you kick yourself because you think that they are way out of that person’s league and you can’t believe they wound up with them.

But we are never out of someone’s league. Not ever. No one is better than anyone! What we are most often, is not a vibrational match for the person we are desiring. What does that mean? It means you aren’t at the same place energetically.

For example, you might only be thinking of work while I’m thinking about how nice it would be to have a partner. Our paths might cross and maybe you dig me and I dig you, but if your focus is not on meeting a partner because you’re caught up with work, I will immediately catch onto this and say goodbye.

I don’t believe anyone is out my league, but I do know that I will only connect with someone who is where I am at energetically. It doesn’t matter what your religion is or your background or how many things we do or don’t have in common.

But what does matter are the following:

Do we share the same vision? Do we respect one another? Do you bring value into my life? Do you help my growth or hinder it? Do I trust you? Do you have my back? Can you keep a secret? Do you make me laugh? Do I think about you when you aren’t around and I smile at something you said or did? And of course, you don’t judge me for my choices even when you may not agree with them.

These are the qualities I would look for in someone and of course they would be looking for the same in me. None of these things have anything to do with looks. Looks change all the time. People gain weight, they lose it, they lose their hair, they get wrinkles and they need glasses to read a menu.

Looks aren’t going to bring you a cold cloth when you’re sick, a cold beer when it’s a hot summer day and they certainly aren’t going to hug you and tell you everything is going to be okay, when you feel it’s not.

But a person who loves you unconditionally will.

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I’m a creative. This means I live in my head, my heart and follow inspiration whenever it is gifted to me. I love acting, modeling, writing and coming up with new ideas to help inspire others.

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