Any Way You Want It

Well if this song doesn’t get you fired up I don’t know what will!

If you are a person who wants things differently than what they currently are, then what is stopping you from making changes?

Well, you of course! You are what is stopping you from having anything you want, any way you want it.

It’s real easy to get into our routines. We practically live in our comfort zones because let’s face it, it’s safe there. At least we think it is. But is safe good or is it debilitating?

If we are too in our comfort zones then we aren’t growing. We aren’t trying to do better, be better, have better. We can become complacent and settle.

I don’t like the word settle. It implies giving up, selling ourselves short and accepting less than what we know we deserve. Often times people settle and don’t even realize it. They do this because working on things is too hard, so they find excuses to stay where they are and then blame everything and everyone for their circumstance.

I’m a person who has a comfort zone but it’s challenged all the time. You don’t work as an actor if you don’t like being challenged. None of the work is challenging for me going into it, but once I am booked, the challenges begin. This is because there are other people involved.

People will challenge us on the daily if we let them. Most people who try their best to challenge you are simply people who feel so out of control in their own lives, that they need to challenge you in order to feel good about themselves. It’s a sickness for sure, but because they require attention in order to feel validated, they don’t care if you like them or hate them, as long as they can get attention from you.

Because I am challenged through work, I have no desire to be challenged otherwise. If you come at me with a challenging demeanor, you won’t get the reaction you are hoping for. What you will get, is a flat line. I have worked on this for so long, you could literally throw ice water in my face and I wouldn’t react. I don’t react anymore. I respond. No response is a big response. It says I will not engage in drama or game playing of any kind.

Because I don’t like drama or mind games, I am very discerning about who I spend my time with. I am very last minute when it comes to social interactions. I have been known to back out of plans, which is why I don’t make them when it comes to social engagements anymore, unless I have to.

Last night I committed to an evening out in the city to hear jazz music. I’m not going to lie, as I was sitting around my apartment and it started to get dark out, I thought about staying in, having a glass of wine and watching another rom com about two people who are night and day and wind up falling in love regardless. While the script is predictable, it’s still appealing, and getting on a train to the city seemed less so.

But I had committed, so I went.

For me, living on Long Island is like being a marionette whose strings are loose and it’s dragging on the ground. I never wanted to live here and can hardly wait to leave! My children don’t like it either, so they encourage me to leave all the time. New York City is on my list of places to move to, but it has been waning for me lately.

I haven’t spent time there in a while, except zipping in and out for work, but as I stepped out of the subway into the West Village, this marionette sprang to life. People were everywhere and the energy sucked me back in a second and I could see myself living there again.

The jazz place was an interesting fun dump. I ordered myself a beer (which I never drink in the winter) and sat down next to complete strangers in a club (which I never do) and waited for the people I was meeting to show up.

The music was fantastic, I chit chatted with everyone, enjoyed my drink and left after a few hours so I could get home and pick up my son from his friend’s house.

As I was heading towards the subway I saw Two Boots Pizza so I stopped to get a slice for myself (which I never do) and got another for my son.

Being out of my comfort zone had a nice effect on me. In Manhattan you really can have anything you want, just the way you want it! But you can also do this wherever else you live; you just have to change up your routine, which means get out of your comfort zone and do something different.

So with that in mind, if you could have anything you want and any way you want it, what would that look like? If you can envision it, you can have it, else you wouldn’t be able to see it in the first place.

We really can have things anyway we want, but we do have to be willing to go after them.

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I am an actress, model, writer and creator of inspirational card decks I sell on Amazon. I also love animals and spend a great deal of time working as a volunteer with several organizations.

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