Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. – Mel Robbins
When people get hurt by other people, they have a hard time forgiving them. Often times they hold a grudge. This ill will or resentment they hold towards someone can consume them to the point where they are unable to move on.
To the worst extent they can become vengeful. Bitter, angry, willing to do just about anything to try and cause drama and pain in the person’s life who they feel wronged them somehow.
When we are in this space we only attract negativity. A perfect example of this is when you you wake up after a horrible night’s sleep. From the moment you get out of bed everything goes wrong and when you see people they might be angry, bring out anger in you or be rude.
The opposite of course is when you wake up refreshed. It’s gorgeous outside, someone holds the door for you at the post office and maybe you even get a free coffee at Starbucks.
The point is this: Your day is completely orchestrated by your mental state. So if you think someone wronged you and you blame them for everything in your life that you don’t like, you will feel completely powerless. But that’s not true. You hold all the power. You get to choose how you live. You are either choosing to forgive and be happy, or choosing to hold a grudge and be miserable. Which choice do you think is going to attract good things into your life?
Remember: when we are focusing too much on the past or future we are not present and it can make us feel very anxious. The past can make us angry and bitter and the future can make us feel scared. The past is done and the future is not yet here, so it makes no logical sense to do either.
A very wise young man told me that when he feels anxious he breathes. He said he goes to his happy place and just listens to his breath. He said it always brings him back to the present moment. I know all this stuff, but sometimes you need to be reminded to just breathe.
It’s almost the start of a brand new year. Breathe in and imagine everyone you need to forgive and then breathe out and let that stuff go. It’s not serving you and it’s only going to keep you stuck in a very dark place where you cannot attract anything but toxic situations and toxic people. Remember: we attract what we are energetically.
Just breathe! You are exactly where you need to be, otherwise you would be somewhere else. All is well. Happy New Year!