Loss of Control

If you’re currently experiencing feelings of unease, then you are probably also feeling a bit raw and nervous. Feeling like this brings a sense of vulnerability and if you are a person who usually likes to control things, feeling vulnerable is your kryptonite.

When we try to control our environment or other people it is because we feel so out of control within ourselves. We think that if we can control everything around us we will feel more secure, but what happens is this thinking actually controls us, because we are never enjoying where we are at, we are only ever focused on outcomes. In fact, we may spend so much time trying to control and strategize a well-played hand, that opportunities and people slip through our hands and we are full of regret.

At this juncture in life we have all lost control. We are all feeling a little nervous, maybe a whole lot of nervousness. There is apprehension in going forward with anything and an overall feeling of instability. This is really hard to take in, especially when our nature is to want to feel stable and while we may take all the steps in the world to be that way, every day shows us that our old ways of thinking aren’t going to work anymore.

“There is a fifth dimension, beyond that which is known to man. It is a dimension as vast as space and as timeless as infinity.” Sound familiar? One of my favorite shows when I was a kid. I loved Rod Serling! He could deliver a monologue like no other! That show was tip top and brought us to another reality that could often times be a bit frightening, this is because The Twilight Zone was the unknown.

Welcome to the Unknown!

And don’t we all hate not knowing? It can make us feel really overwhelming, not to mention scared. The world doesn’t resemble what it did a few years ago and there doesn’t seem to be anything but the same or worse coming towards us. Last night I popped into the grocery store and the shelves were empty again. Inflation is on the up, the market is on the down and pretty much everything that was once a certainty, is now the exact opposite.

The truth is, there is no more certainty in anything anymore…except change. More change and more change. And while you may have rolled all your coins and thought you got rid of all that change, you didn’t.

Our new reality is the unknown. We have no idea what each day is going to bring now. We can try to have a schedule, plan things and be optimistic, but we really don’t know if we are on the verge of a shut down again or kicking this thing to the curb. We just wake up everyday hoping for the best now and God willing, we are doing it with people we love. Because when all is said and done, love is our super power and it is what will get us through anything.

If you are a person who has never read The Power of Now, you are literally being forced to live it. You have to resign to what you are doing at any given moment and be okay with it. When life gets hard and it seems as though there are more storms than sunshine, you have to be the buffalo. This simply means you charge directly into the storm, minimizing the pain, time and frustration that is experienced from that storm.

Or you can be the rabbit and run for cover. You can stay there hiding away from the storms all you want, but when you face the storms like the buffalo, you face your fears head on and then you have nothing to fear at all.

Even the Unknown. Embrace it my friends, and your life will get a whole lot easier.

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I am an actress, model, writer and creator of inspirational card decks I sell on Amazon. I also love animals and spend a great deal of time working as a volunteer with several organizations.

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