joining or linking things together, especially so as to provide access and communication.
I have arrived at this place in my life where I don’t feel the need to talk for the sake of talking, just to be a part of a conversation.
Some people will just babble on about nothingness just to seemingly be “a part” of a group, but I find that the more I am comfortable with who I am, the happier I am to just listen to others.
You hear a lot when you don’t talk. You see a lot too. So much is spoken within the unspoken. The gestures people make, their discomfort, their looks, their sadness, their fear, their judging. The wounded children inside of them just yearning for attention.
I think at a core level we all want the same things, but some people just go about getting them in different ways. Or don’t at all. There is an emptiness in some people that says I have resigned to where I am, even though I am unhappy and also a bitterness that is ever present in the way they respond to others.
I do not relate to most people. I don’t think I ever have. I have played along, put on the mask, and pretended to be something or someone I wasn’t but that never served me, just others who wanted something from me that they would not or could not give themselves.
I have made some amazing discoveries on this journey. I have learned to be my own everything, to set boundaries when needed, to honor myself with space and to discern between when someone is listening or just pretending to.
When I am with people who only want to be recognized for who they are and what they are bringing to the table, it gives me an opportunity to observe.
In this place of observation, I realize that often times connection to some people simply means being in their presence but I feel connection is so much more.
True connection is the recognition of a persons soul. Who they are beyond the appearance. It is the willingness to be vulnerable and allow others into your heart.
And while connections may not always be seamless, there are the rare times when they are fated and just plain easy.
There are some people you will always have a connection with. The ones you can pick up right where you left off, even when you haven’t spoken in awhile. My friend, Sue comes to mind.
I had someone reach out to me via text and I had no clue who the number belonged to, but I did know whoever sent it, knew me, so I wrote back right away.
I realized later it was from Richard, a man who directed me in a brilliant pilot he wrote and directed a few years ago. I have always rooted for him and his work and I was so happy to get his text. Somehow we lost our connection through the years. I’m not sure why, but I was so happy to reconnect with a like minded individual.
Connecting to one another is what we are missing most right now. It is human nature.
Relationships come into our lives for a variety of reasons and none should ever be discounted. There is something we can learn about ourselves from them all. The abusive, the toxic, the easy, the vapid, the boring, the happy, the creative, and of course, the loving.