an emotional state or reaction.

Do You Love What You Feel

We all have feelings, but some of us don’t quite know how to express them. This is really hard for people who feel everything, to understand. It requires patience when dealing with someone who does not share. But patience is a virtue, which is why so many of us aren’t virtuous.

We may try to understand, have patience with them, but there is a fine line between being patient with someone who is trying to change and someone who simply won’t. Some folks just don’t like change. And some folks don’t think they need to.

What is it about change that frightens so many people? The unknown, if you will. I love it! I live it! I breathe it! If I’m not changing, I’m stagnant and crippled with anxiety, worrying about a future that has yet to happen. Or I’m still living in the past, basing all of the decisions and actions I take, based on what happened there.

I didn’t coin it, but it’s true. “The only thing that is constant is change,” so why not embrace that?

Part of changing, is acknowledging our feelings. Maybe even about change. When we trap our feelings inside and don’t share them, they fester until eventually (who knows when and where) they erupt. Usually people will look at you like you’re some kind of a lunatic, because they have no clue how long you have been holding all that stuff in.

I don’t know why people still hold feelings in, especially when we live in a time that is completely unpredictable and seems to be no rhyme or reason as why you would want to. You can only blame your upbringing for so long on this one.

I was told to keep the peace for years, but honestly, I stopped doing that a long time ago. The only people that served, were the people who asked it of me and I don’t answer to them anymore.

I would rather be around people who yell and show passion then people who storm off, go quiet and act like nothing is wrong or don’t talk to you at all. This behavior is a complete and utter breakdown in communication and makes the people in your life feel like you don’t give a crap what they think.

Passion. It is the key to everything. It’s what drives us to want things. It ignites a fire inside of us that spurns us on. It builds character, makes us act spontaneous and is fully accountable as the catalyst to go after our dreams.

People without passion…I just don’t get em. How do you live without it? How do you not allow yourself to feel this fire?

I guess it all goes back to that ugly word, control. When we don’t share our feelings with someone, we are trying to control a situation or them. But this is an illusion. Control is an illusion. You cannot control anyone, so why would you want to control yourself from feeling passion?

Feelings equals vulnerability and if you aren’t brave enough, passionate enough or confident enough to share them, than it’s probably best that you go live in a cave somewhere, so people who feel, don’t mistake you for someone who does.

People who feel understand that taking chances, going for their dreams and sharing their feelings is what they came here to do. It’s what we all came her for. To be who we are without all of the programs and control.

All that is required to do this, is to be authentic. To accept that you are a person who is worthy of love, understanding and kindness. But in order to have those things, you have to feel. You have to let people in.

Feel something! Anything! What’s the worst that can happen, if you do?



a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep.

a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.

If you have a good dream, I guess the two meanings are one in the same.

Sometimes I have lucid dreams. These are the best! Not only am I seeing images and having sensations, I am also realizing cherished aspirations and ideals. I actually have conversations with people and then remember them the next day. I wish I could have them all the time, but I don’t. 

When we dream, either while sleeping or awake, we allow ourselves to be free. We give ourselves permission to think about possibilities. A smile can’t help but break through, just at the mere notion of having what we want, what we desire, maybe even what we dreamt about the night prior.

I am a big believer in dreaming. Mostly in the awake stage of life. I do not think anything is out of reach. We merely have to be a vibrational match for it to come to fruition. Once we understand this, life becomes effortless. It’s when we resist change or try and control outcomes that life gets funky.

One of my favorite spiritual gurus likes to say, “Be a dot.” I like it. Simply put it means to live in the moment. To observe. To wake every day without an agenda. To allow ourselves to be shown what to do next, instead of taking so much futile action that just keeps us on the merry go round to nowhere.

I have always hated making plans. It doesn’t help when you are trying to have friends, but real friends understand this is part of what makes you, you, which is probably why I don’t have too many. But I am okay with that. I don’t want inauthentic relationships anymore.

I feel constricted when I have to commit to something because quite frankly, I don’t know what I will be up to two weeks from now. I might be traveling for work, visiting someone, on set of a commercial, taking a class, doing yoga, doing nothing. I only know what I’m doing now, which is writing this post.

I wake every day and allow life to take me where I need to go. This way of being sets me free of entanglements and situations that I really don’t want to be in. It allows for me to dare to dream about what I want and surprisingly, I have become more creative.

It’s as though loving this way has set me free. My mind is empty of where I have to be or being burdened with something I have to do, I simply am. The ideas flow like Niagara Falls and I only take action when I am inspired to, not from a place of having to.

We do not have to be anywhere, or do anything. It is a choice we make. I am simply choosing to be present in every single second of the day without attachment to anything. This is not to say that I’m some airy fairy that doesn’t have responsibility, but I see my commitments to those who rely on me as I gift, not a chore.

Here’s to dreaming! At night and during the day.

Dream a Little Dream of Me

Stars shining bright above you
Night breezes seem to whisper “I love you”
Birds singing in the sycamore trees
Dream a little dream of me
Say nighty-night and kiss me
Just hold me tight and tell me you’ll miss me
While I’m alone and blue as can be
Dream a little dream of me
Stars fading but I linger on dear
Still craving your kiss
I’m longing to linger till dawn dear
Just saying this
Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you
Sweet dreams that leave all worries behind you
But in your dreams whatever they be
Dream a little dream of me
Stars fading but I linger on dear
Still craving your kiss
I’m longing to linger till dawn dear
Just saying this
Sweet dreams, till sunbeams find you
Gotta keep dreaming leave all worries behind you
But in your dreams whatever they be
You gotta make me a promise, promise to me
You’ll dream, dream a little of me