I loooove Amy Winehouse! This song is so fantastic, especially the first part about fuckery. I mean, come on! Who hasn’t wanted to call somebody about on theirs?
But that’s not OUR job, is it? We might think it is, especially when we start to see things in a new light and have a keen awareness that some of the people in our lives are actually pretty shady.
When you become more conscious and see a clear distinction between what you want and the agenda others have (probably more of out a tower moment or disaster), you start to see the many ways in which you have settled for less than what you deserve.
You start to hear people differently and wonder if they talked this way to you all along. It’s as though you had ear plugs in or a huge wax build up, but all of a sudden your ears are attuned to everything, like a wild animal in the jungle.
Oh boy! And the things you see! Once those blinders come off, there’s no putting them back on. You may notice the way people treat others like you are viewing their interactions for the first time. You might be caught so off guard, that you want to crawl under a table or run in the opposite direction so that no one sees you with them.
You also become aware of the not so subtle nuances of how they take you for granted, take advantage of your good heart and worst of all, do it with a smile. They pretend to have your back when they don’t and will throw you under the bus, any bus, the minute they can.
Fuckery for sure, but let’s be honest here. We have to be accountable for this treatment, don’t we? I mean, as much as it’s easier to blame someone else for our pain, we have to ask those really hard questions that most of us don’t even know exist.
How did I attract this in the first place? What was it in me that invited this into my life? Where am I unhealed? What is it I need to love more about myself, so that I don’t ever have to attract this pain and misery into my life again?
Yeah! Those are some pretty tough questions, but if there are people in your life that make you feel bad, then chances are you already don’t feel good about who you are because you wouldn’t have attracted them in the first place.
Life is all about learning and growing. Often times it takes painful situations in order for us to learn a lesson. It doesn’t have to be this way, but we are stubborn. We look past all of the warning signs that were probably there from the get go, and eventually those little red flags become landmines and we find ourselves literally walking on eggshells to avoid any conflict.
But it still happens. It is all by design. And if you don’t learn to love the parts of you that you think need to be hidden away, then you will continue to attract people who do the same. Talk about skeletons in the closet! Some people are pretty fucking scary and they are very savvy at keeping that shit hidden.
In this song, as much as she calls out her guy on his fuckery, she still loves him and knows that in the end, he is only playing himself.
You see, the moral here, is that it’s better to be authentic. Simply put, that means being your crazy ass self. It is far better to attract people who really get you, than people who only get the surface one.
Like attracts like. Remember that!