“There are people out there holding their breath, waiting for you to fail…make sure they suffocate!”
I’m not sure who said that, but it’s awesome! Truly words to live by.
Most of us worry too much about what other people think. And when we do this, people don’t have to hold their breath very long, because we resign to what it is we really want and listen to others instead.
Have you ever been around someone who always makes you feel bad about your choices or ideas? No matter what you say, they somehow find the “what if” to it or they give you the “that will never work.” The worst is the passive-aggressive answer: “Hope that works!” “Best of luck with that!” “Okaaaaay!”You may not even get your idea off the ground if this is done to you enough.
Or, you might try to convince them how awesome it will be and the more you talk, the less they listen. They’ve already tuned you out and shut you down. It might make you mad, so you tell them how you feel. This is called engaging. It’s when we feel the need to explain ourselves, to have someone agree with us, to see our side of things.
Engaging leads to fighting. It keeps you in a cycle of always trying to prove yourself. If you find yourself trying to convince someone of your idea or your way of thinking, you have just engaged in battle. You will become frustrated by the conversation and will still not get them to see your point of view.
It is not our job to convince anyone of anything. If someone isn’t interested in listening to what we have to say, then we should at least hold our tongue. Save your pearls for people who know how to appreciate them.
Be mindful of who you share your news with. This is a very important lesson I have had to learn myself. Learn to discern. Know when someone has your back, and when they have the knife in it.
Remember, there is always someone out there, waiting for you to fail. It’s sad, but true. So make sure you succeed. Never stop! Just keep doing you, stay focused on your goals and dreams and take steps every single day to achieve them.