Action Versus Words

I’m a big fan of both!

Our actions are everything! What we choose to pursue, do something about, take a cause in, support, love…it all takes action.

But our words…they can be empty, hurtful or supportive.

The two together are what create a healthy connection. Action without words can be attractive, as long as the intent is from the heart and not the ego. Words can be sweet but if we talk all day long about taking action and never do it, then it’s just talk.

There are people who talk a good game. They might say all of the right things like they have memorized the back of a New York Times Bestseller or every rom com ever written, but their actions are non-existent so you realize their words are empty just like the person saying them.

Then there are people who take action because they can’t express themselves emotionally. It’s like they have some list they go through or they obtained somewhere that says “these are the things you should do” to show someone you care about them, but it won’t feel genuine because it’s coming from a place of obligation, not love.

In order to have any healthy connection, both actions and words are required. You can say one thing and do the exact opposite, but whoever you are dealing with will begin to question your loyalty. The more times your actions and words don’t meet, the more the relationship is severed.

Loyalty is something most people overlook when it comes to relationships. A loyal person is a rare commodity. An allegiance you build with someone should never be broken. If it is, it is simply because your words and your actions weren’t in alignment.

What Qualifies Our Identity

When people ask you what you do for a living and you answer, at what point did you feel that you were qualified to identify with it? Did you reach some expert status, certain accolade, a financial level?

I didn’t call myself an actor for a long time. I would say I did acting, but never felt qualified to claim the title. I was always in awe of people I took classes with or who had done the same amount as work as me, who did. It wasn’t until I did a number of jobs that I felt qualified to call myself one.

And while some of us may struggle with identifying as something, there are people who identify with titles and roles who aren’t qualified at all. They just pretend they are or they are so delusional, they actually think they are.

Have you ever talked to someone who brags about how well they are doing, but you know it isn’t true? They try very hard to identify with being happy, but people who are happy don’t need to tell you they are happy; you see it, feel it and experience their joy when you are with them.

We may identify with qualities we admire in others, but if we haven’t done the work ourselves to obtain these things, then no matter how much we say we are that, we really aren’t, and it shows.

What we identify with and the quality in which we give to it or get from it, is very telling about what matters most to us. Are your relationships healthy? Are they loving? Are they kind? Are they giving? Are they fulfilling? Is work just work, a measure of your ego or do you actually enjoy it?

What do you identify with? And is it bringing you the quality of life you want? Cause if it’s not, you really need to think about what matters most. And what matters most, is love.

Love should be your inner driver towards everything. When everything is done from a place of love, the quality of your life only ever identifies with anything and anyone who operates from the same space. You attract jobs, people and situations that are only in your best interest.

Life is not hard. Keeping up a false identity is. And operating from a place of non-love not only makes your life harder, it is unsustainable. Look at your relationships for proof.