an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.

a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.

I try to do yoga 4-5 times a week. Yoga is all about balance, much like life is. Often times one of my sides if off balance and I cannot get into a pose really well or hold one as long as the other.

If you are into any type of energy work or spirituality, then you know that the right side of the body represents masculine and the left side represents feminine. I am fascinated by this when people complain of aches or pains on one side of their body and I wonder where they are off balance in their thoughts, actions, and feelings.

The masculine side is characterized by logic, facts, systems, and self-interest. The feminine side uses intuition, feelings, openness, and the unselfishness of our nature. If we see them as separate, instead of embracing both qualities within us, then we are living in duality.

If both sides are in harmony, then your masculine and feminine energies are balanced and you have better health, harmony, and are conscious to all beings. You may have heard the terms divine masculine and divine feminine; this is unity within, which in turn, will foster unity without.

In order to have healthy relationships with partners, nature and everything in-between, there has to be a union of these two energies within us first. But most of us do not have this and our relationships will reflect where we are off balance.

We are currently off balance at this particular time in history. We are anxious, fearful, panicked, overwhelmed and angry. Shelves are empty and people are scared. We are ignoring one another instead of helping and staying as far away from anyone that we even perceive as a threat.

Where is the humanity in any of it? Human touch is what makes us all thrive, yet we are afraid to even look at one another.

I don’t know about you, but I refuse to buy into the fear. I cannot control what happens tomorrow, nor can you. The best that I can do is be responsible, make smart choices that don’t put myself or others in danger and keep doing what I do.

I’m not wearing a mask, I don’t have any Purel, I haven’t stock-piled toilet paper, and I most certainly haven’t stopped my yoga practice or auditions. In fact, I think I might go out to eat later and enjoy a nice dinner with a glass of wine.

Call me irresponsible, call me crazy or call me ignorant. I don’t care. I’m calling it living without fear because feeding into it, only creates more hysteria and I don’t operate from that place. If I have learned one thing on this journey, it’s to respond not react; there really is a difference.

All that is being asked of you at this moment, is to remain balanced. To stay calm. Love those in your life a little more because you are being forced to be with them now and maybe that’s not such a bad thing. Look at the positive and stop focusing on the negative and all of this will leave as fast as it came.

Nurture the feminine aspect of yourself and the masculine one as well. We are not at war with one another, in fact, we are in this together. This is an opportunity for us all to unite and make conscious choices that will raise the vibration of our planet, instead of ones based on fear that lower it and send us all into a tailspin.

Love, laugh, play games, share meals, talk. Everything happens for a reason-maybe this one is simply to appreciate what we have and those who are in our lives, just a little more.

Who Is Your Jesus?

I must admit I love Depeche Mode. One of my favorite songs is, Personal Jesus.

We all need a personal Jesus; someone we can call when we need to be picked up, told we are being a terd and just gives us the honest to God’s truth no matter what we are inquiring about.

I have a few but often times I forget to ask for help or maybe I just don’t want to bother them or I try to figure things out myself.  But the truth is I need these people to tell me when I’m not thinking straight.

I’m not much of a thinker, I’m a doer. That’s not to say that I don’t think about things, I actually think about them a lot and then I do something about it.  Often times I have taken action before thinking and it’s gotten me in a real conundrum. I love that word-the wine is good, too!

I am learning that there is a gap between thinking and doing and it’s a real window of opportunity. It’s the place where we stop and think about our actions before we proceed.

Taking action is a real male quality and one I have honed quite well. The other aspect is the feminine – the receiver, and I’m not very good at that. You would think by looking at all of my photos that I’m girly girl but the truth is, I’m kind of gangster. My kids didn’t coin me “white mom” for nothing.

I take action for those I love all the time. I have become so accustomed to taking action and going like a thoroughbred down the pike that I forgot to breathe, to trust, to allow, to receive. In short, to be a woman!

I had to get run down in order for me to realize this. Like hitting a wall, getting sick kind of way.  Last week I was scheduled to take a class over a weekend and a family member got sick. I cancelled class and hit the road. The entire emotional aspect wore me down and I came home and took the week off.

How can I continue to give so much and not receive? It’s illogical. There are people who want to give to me but I have become so accustomed to taking action that I have forgotten how to accept help.  There is an aspect of not wanting to disappoint anyone that hovers over me like a vulture, so often times I take action when I don’t want to.

So I asked a few people about what to do. I looked over my patterns and how I go at such a frenetic pace and the answer became logical instead of emotional.

I wrote the one agent I have that really pressures me and told him I am taking a break from commercials. With him there is no break from one thing, so he said I should take a break from everything and let him know when I’m back in the game.

Only I’m not going back in that game. I’m starting a new one.

Have you watched commercials lately? Do I look like anyone in them? You don’t remember people in commercials for a reason. Unless it’s Flo and that’s because they want you to. Commercial auditions, in a word, suck. Half the time I go to them I don’t even want to. Can you imagine the energy I’m sending off? I mean, I’m good, but not that good.

The moment I intentionally decided to honor myself, I received two auditions for projects that excite me. I now have three scripts I have to memorize by next week and two auditions for print.

So my questions to you are: Do you have a Jesus? And are you honoring the male and feminine aspects of yourself?  Because if you are run down like I was, chances are you are a little out of whack.

How much do you give versus how much do you receive?

Know when to ask for help and know when to give it. It’s a real balance and the key to living a full and enriching life.