One of my favorite shows is The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. My favorite episode this past season was the one with Susie at the pool with Midge.
The timing, the writing, the humor. Oh my God! I watched it three times I loved it so much. When she talks about hating the heat, gets hit with the ball and then tries to swim…I love her!
And then there was this song in episode 6. This song! The words, the melody, the tragic scene before he performed it. It was heartbreaking.
I cannot imagine having a secret this big. To think that your truth could ruin your reputation, career, social standing or the way people perceive you? What do you do with that kind of secret?
Well, in the show it was obvious that he had to keep it a secret. People keep secrets because they feel that their truth will be misunderstood by others. Coming out back then would have meant the end of his career for embracing his authentic self. But today? I mean, come on! What secret is that big that you feel you have to keep it?
You think people will care and you probably imagine the worst, but most people are selfish and egotistical and would rather talk about themselves than you. And if you are worrying about what other people think so much, then you’re not living your life for you, are you? And that’s pretty sad.
People will always gossip. It’s their nature. Jealousy, envy, boredom. Some people gossip about others because they have nothing interesting to say about themselves.
So if someone is gossiping about you, then you can consider yourself lucky. You must be pretty awesome! A really great thing about gossip is, people who do it don’t have the brass to talk about you to your face, so you’ll never know anyway.
But when people close to you do it…not so good. Here enters the discernment about who you share what with. I have personally ended relationships with friends who gossiped. I knew too well that if they spoke so freely about someone else, then they extended me the same courtesy as well.
It’s pretty simple but people over complicate it. At the end of the day, no one has to know who you truly are, who you love or why, unless you decide to tell them. That’s so powerful! YOU GET TO DECIDE!
So, no one has to know…or do they? Choose the one that sets your heart free.