Yesterday I did a print job for Loreal. When you work in the industry, most of the day is spent sitting and waiting until it’s your turn to shine.
I meet a lot of people while I am in the wait mode. A woman and I were chatting yesterday about acting jobs and being on hold and then released. I said I appreciated an email when I was released or a phone call. She had worked in casting and said that it wasn’t necessary, which she then followed with, “Don’t be such a girl!”
I laughed at this. I’ve been a man for so long raising three boys into young men who see me as their pillar of strength, go to for everything from investing, saving, life lessons, how to treat a girl and how to tie a tie, that I have felt everything but girly. So being told I was “such a girl” not only made me feel amazing, it awakened a part of me that had been asleep for far too long.
I think it’s sad that a person would think there is something wrong with being too girlish or boyish. I like it when someone wants to help me. Am I a damsel in distress because I do? I don’t think so. In fact, I think it shows strength when a person can be vulnerable.
This newly awakened girl in me started to notice something very interesting. When I am on set I am treated exceptionally well. In my relationships with men, not so much. I realized yesterday that it’s because I have always made the men in my life feel like they are the only one in the world, but they have never made me feel that way in return. Perhaps you have felt the same way about your partners as well.
This aha moment of connecting the set world to the real world was inspirational and liberating. In order to have lasting relationships, we have to feel special, like we matter, our needs should constantly be met and when someone looks at us, they should be looking at us like we are perfection, just like when you are doing a production.
When you’re on set people are happy you are there, they talk to you freely, make you feel good about who you are and accept you just as you are and everything is easy. Relationships should be no different.
These are the jobs I attract as well as the people that come with them. So now that I am keenly aware of the correlation between that world and the dating one, men who get this concept, will show up.
Remember, your inner world attracts your outer one, and so, just like that…
I sat down on the crowded train home and a man I had never seen before sat across from me. Easygoing, talkative, quite plesant, charming, handsome and stylish. Could it really be that easy? Time will tell.
So now that you know the secret to manifesting real love that will last, don’t accept anything less than feeling like you are the only girl/guy in the world. Being made to feel any other way, is not only a big red flag, it’s a waste of your time.