the scheme or deception is revealed or foiled. used to say that a dishonest plan or activity has been discovered and will not be allowed to continue.
This saying has been around forever, like since the Elizabethan era which was from 1558-1603. And yet, still so valid today.
We also know the jig as a dance. A lot of people would prefer to dance with the devil they know (no matter how much their feet keep getting stomped on), then the one they don’t.
A lot of us will carry baggage that isn’t ours, change things we may not want to, resist a new beginning, struggle with everything, lose money, feel like we are losing our minds; all so we can hold on to a person who is doing absolutely nothing for us, but a whole lot of bad stuff to us.
People around us can see us suffering, sad and exhausted, but we hold on for dear life fearing change, not wanting to see our partner for who they really are and how miserable we are with them. Instead, we cling to what we thought they were and look the other way to all of the wrong doing being done around us.
How many times have you been around couples and they bicker right in front of you? Or, you witness one of them talking while the other ignores them? At dinner they are both on their phones. Sex is a chore and neither one of them enjoy it. One of them berates the other in public. One of them cheats. One of them is a pathological liar.
When is the jig up for these people? How long are they going to continue in a relationship that is unhealthy? You gotta wonder. At the end of the day though, it’s not up to us to decide this for them, they have to decide for themselves when the jig is up and unfortunately it usually comes when things get really bad between two people.
People fear the unknown, which is why they stay, but ironically they already know on some level things aren’t right, so there really is no unknown. The pit in the stomach, the mistrust, the deception, the lies, the constant state of unrest, the instability, the insecurity…you can turn a blind eye for awhile, but eventually there will be one thing you can’t ignore.
Sadly, both people are doing the other one a disservice. When its time to let go, its time. It should be done with dignity and grace for the wonderful moments you shared together, not the ugliness that ensues because things drag on way beyond their expiration and someone doesn’t get their way.
I don’t know when the jig will be up for people still clinging to a lie, but it will most definitely be a tower moment that could have been avoided, had they only honored one another sooner. The jig was up for me with a piece of mail, but the tower had taken many blows before it arrived.
A marriage with no trust, is no marriage. A marriage where communication is seen as an argument is no partnership. A a marriage with no stability or security is not an environment that is healthy for anyone. And a marriage without love is heartbreaking and lonely.
The hardest part in any relationship is knowing its over. We all want to believe that the person we committed to is our forever, but if someone isn’t growing with you its not going to work. When a person loves you they will do anything to keep you, not fight you at every turn. And sadly, sometimes the devil we thought we knew, winds up being someone we never really knew at all.
The world needs more love and compassion, not less. Know when the jig is up and honor your partner with the truth. Holding on for selfish reasons does nothing for anyone involved.